Anyone who has lost touch with friends over the years knows what I am talking about here.
I have always, however, considered this issue to be a topic of priorities:
If those friends were more important to you, you would have made more of an effort in keeping up with them.
As I get older though, I am less certain that this is true.
See, one of the larger constraints that you bump into as an adult is that there is less and less time.
Kids, dogs, church, work, family, and the like are increasingly asking from us. None of this is bad, of course, but the point is that there is a limit to what we can do.
Sometimes we neglect relationships – sure – but sometimes it might be just a product of geography, and growing up.
When my father left the East, he lost touch with most of his Brooklyn friends. It was part of being an adult, I suppose, of being a father, a husband. A person can lead only so many lives.
-Rich Cohen, Tough Jews
