When wanting to accomplish something, having specific objectives is imperative.
Reverse engineer anything and you will know this to be true.
For example, people do not often go from financial distress to financial luxury without both a clear objective and steps to reach their goal.
You don’t buy a boat, switch jobs, open a brokerage account, and expect your financial situation to reverse itself in five years.
I think people can struggle with the sense that success is happenstance.
This is false.
This happens to be true for parenting too.
If you are in doubt: Just show up.
“For instance, if you, Christy, desire financial independence for your children, but Kelli cares only that they know how to exist by panhandling for food, the operating procedure for each parent to achieve that result would be different. In other words, there would be no standard. Christy and Kelli would then exist, as most of today’s society does, as two parents who had agreed to disagree. “Without specific results as a target—results that are agreed upon in advance—most parents simply yield to ‘doing the best we can,’ which is not a standard. That lack of a specific objective yields less than satisfactory results. Do you understand?”
-Andy Andrews, The Noticer Returns