Good explanations are the start of good parenting, I think.
Let’s just not be surprised that when we teach our children critical thinking, and the joy of bucking the status quo, that they don’t eventually cause a stir here and there.
They may even call us out for poor thinking now and again too.
And let’s hope that good explanations eventually internalize the good behavior we seek.
Reasoning does create a paradox: it leads both to more rule following and more rebelliousness. By explaining moral principles, parents encourage their children to comply voluntarily with rules that align with important values and to question rules that don’t. Good explanations enable children to develop a code of ethics that often coincides with societal expectations; when they don’t square up, children rely on the internal compass of values rather than the external compass of rules.
-Adam Grant, Originals