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Consequences > Punishment

I think that consequences work better than punishment because of something plain and simple.

Consequences can change internal behavior.

Punishment is likely to only change external behavior.

I am speaking here on parenting specifically, but I am sure than this is part of a broader discussion.

Said different, it is one thing to change what a person does or does not do. It is another thing entirely to change their hearts.

Understand: Behavior change happens with long-term commitment – not short-term compliance.

We see punishment as the parent deliberately depriving a child for a set period of time or inflicting pain on him, in order to teach that child a lesson. Consequences, on the other hand, come about as a natural result of the child’s behavior.

-Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish, How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk (Amazon)

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