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I Did It Because Of You

I Did It Because Of You

We all have agency over our decisions. I am not arguing that.

But how many of our aspirations, attitudes, faults, and talents are a direct result of our upbringing?

We often want what our parents hoped for us to become (or thought we couldn’t become).

But sometimes it’s more complicated than that…

We seek from others what our parents never gave us. Attention. Love. Affirmation. Etc.

Understand: Parenting is hard.

This is the second part of this post.

I was alone with him in the bedroom; his mind was alert but his body was failing. He said, almost buoyantly, “I’m ready now.” I sat on the edge of the bed, and another silence fell over us. Then he said, “I wish I could cry, I wish I could cry.” At first I took this as a comment on his condition but am forever thankful that I pushed on. “What do you want to cry about?” I said. “For all the love I received and couldn’t return.” I felt a chill of familiarity. There was another lengthy silence as we looked into each other’s eyes. At last he said, “You did everything I wanted to do.” “I did it for you,” I said. Then we wept for the lost years. I was glad I didn’t say the more complicated truth: “I did it because of you.”

-Steve Martin, Born Standing Up (Amazon)

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But You Limp

But You Limp

I’ve heard this before and it’s undoubtedly true.

I’m grown with kids of my own – but it makes me want to weep thinking about losing my parents.

Life goes on, I know.

But you limp forever and always after that.

IN THE EARLY 1980s, a friend whose father had been killed crossing the street and whose mother had committed suicide on Mother’s Day advised me, “If you have anything to work out with your parents, do it now. One day it will be too late.” This thought nagged at me and I began a fifteen-year effort to reconnect with my parents. I took them to lunch almost every weekend, probing them for anecdotes about our life together, and these consistent visits made us closer. My father enjoyed dealing with fan-mail requests and used his real estate expertise to help manage my vacation home.

-Steve Martin, Born Standing Up (Amazon)

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