I cannot imagine these things.
I simply cannot…
And I hope you do not have to either.
All I know is that family should live close to family – be as near to each other as possible.
Do life together – even the hard parts.
The twilight existence of unconscious metabolism becomes an unbearable burden, usually left to an institution, where the family, unable to attain closure, visits with increasing rarity, until the inevitable fatal bedsore or pneumonia sets in. Some insist on this life and embrace its possibility, eyes open. But many do not, or cannot, and the neurosurgeon must learn to adjudicate.
-Paul Kalanithi, When Breath Becomes Air (Amazon)