You climb out of the darkness by finding meaning and belonging.
See, the truth is that the question of why can get you down if you take a wrong turn by the answer.
Do not fall for this.
Man’s Search For Meaning, By Victor Frankl is a great read on this, as well Can Man Live Without God, By: Ravi Zacharias.
Find meaning and realize that life is not meaningless. You are in no way a meaningless puff of air.
Everything you do matters. And it matters forever.
But here is the awful part that few will tell you. There is pain at both ends of the spectrum.
For below is Bourdain at the end of his rope. And less than 10 years later he committed suicide after reaching the pinnacle of human fame and wealth.
Understand: Without meaning and purpose, the ultimate pleasure is eventually a letdown too.
I’d quit heroin and I’d quit methadone and I’d stopped doing cocaine and stopped smoking crack—like everybody tells you to, right? And yet there I was, still broke and still frightened and in a deep financial hole I knew I would never climb out of. And I was angry about that. Very angry.
-Anthony Bourdain, Medium Raw (Amazon)